Kind Words from Birthmom

Birthmom sent this last week:

Thank you for opening your arms up to my son.. and being a good mom and parent to him. I believe he will grow up to be a very smart and talented individual because of all the stuff you guys teach him, he is developing so quick!, [he] is so very lucky to have you guys! hes a sweet little baby. I know he will always have some traits of his mama in him. :) going to be a handful when he gets to be older. haha I sure do hope you and your family are doing well... Give [him] a big hug and kiss for me... talk to you later. 

I cant help but notice that she calls him "my son" and "a sweet little baby". Is this part of her delusion? Her way of coping? Our boy is almost three and hasn't seen her in nearly 2 years. I want her to know that the past two years haven't been all dandelions and rainbows. Our boy is a handful. Even with a strong support system, parenting books, and the endurance to run a marathon keeping up with him each day, I still fall short as his mother. Someone in her circumstances might not be able to do it at all. In reflecting on his state when we first got him, I wonder if he would have survived much longer in their home. Our boy has sensory processing disorder and had developmental delays - as a direct result of the time (4 months) that he spent with her and the birthfather before entering foster care. But birthmom is too fragile to hear all that now. She's still a young woman. So, I kindly let her hold onto her delusion.

Despite her errors, I truly appreciate her words.