Birthmom

We have been emailing the birth mother. She seems so sweet. She claims to love our boy just as much as we do. I cringe when I read that. I want to scream, "YOU DONT EVEN KNOW YOUR BOY!" but I understand that she doesn't understand.

I try to picture her childhood. I try to picture her day-to-day life. What is she doing? What will her future hold? If she gets pregnant again will she try to raise the child?

She is very young and has many years of possible child-bearing ahead of her. I would love for our boy to have a sibling and a blood relative would just be incredible. But I also want birthmom to figure things out. I want her to take care of herself and learn to care for others. I want her to find a helper and a community of people who expect something great from her. I fear that she doesn't have anything like that at all. She might not even have someone to expect anything from her.

I have told her how much she means to us because she gave us our boy. I'm not sure she really understands the love we have for her.